Three Day Rule Matchmaking — Attraction in Kearny

This has been a NIGHTMARE experience to say the least. I have been working with TDR for 3 months and have had zero dates. It’s as if they don’t even screen them or try AT ALL. My dating coach cancelled on me 30 mins before we were scheduled. I asked for a specific matchmaker in MAY they said no. I asked for an experienced NYC matchmaker and they gave me someone in North Carolina. When I said something that I wasn’t happy with this matchmaker they said to trust the process. After truly giving her a try and really feeling like she wasn’t a match for me I said something finally and they tried to give me to someone with 6 months of experience who is a wannabe actor. Really? I finally said you’re clearly not listening to me now why would I be listened to when I’m actually working with someone? They finally paired me with someone I felt comfortable with when I asked for my money back but she’s clearly stacked and slow to respond and giving me dates who are literally horrible- should have been screened out in 5 mins of speaking with them for ANY woman nevertheless what I’m looking for.

What’s the worst part in all of this is that it just feels like a total scam and like I’ve been preyed on. I told them that I was previously in an abusive relationship and want my dating experience to be positive now that I’m finally ready to start dating again. If feels like they quite literally used that as a vulnerability to then gaslight me and deprioritize me and my needs and send me men I literally wouldn’t even swipe right for and trust me I’m REALLY not picky.

Shame on you and this predatory business. This is totally unacceptable to be treating woman like this and if you don’t have capacity to take on a client and at least PRETEND to do a decent job then don’t even do it at all.

Ladies - save your time, energy and money! I literally am so disappointed and deeply hurt they don’t deserve you and I am writing this to help any other women who may be considering their services to stay away!!! Please feel free to email me I have receipts of everything and am happy to share to anyone who is willing to drop this amount of money and put your heart out there because this is...

I am so grateful for my matchmaker Maia. While she launched my personal experience with TDR according to all the official protocols, she very soon showed her deeply intuitive heart and real superpower. Yes, of course she has the highly insightful skills you need to listen to what people are looking for and search for those who may be an aligned match. That professionalism was just the start of what Maia had to offer. Where she really demonstrated that extra special wisdom was in her highly personalized, patient, calm, kind demeanor 'walking me off the ledge' many a time. She would always respond to my texts within minutes and never in a way that made me feel I was imposing. Instead, what I found on the other end of the line was someone who was able to hear the 'real' story, to listen so well that she was able to bring her own educational degree in psychology to bear - in spades. It was on a NYC buzzy street when a question felt super 'urgent' to me, that I reached out to her. She immediately said 'call me'. In that carpe diem moment, Maia provided an extra nurturing care for my heart and an attentiveness to how I was wired. She wanted to really know me as her client, and all these micro-moments allowed her to really understand where I was coming from. I'm forever grateful for every text, phone call or email where she truly elevated my views about approaching this process with an open and loving heart for men. She introduced me to lovely matches and took the feedback from each with full receptivity. I'm just getting to know a very special person she introduced me to and of course so deeply appreciative that she stuck it out by my side through...

I recently had the pleasure of working with Kara Laricks, a matchmaker for LGBTQ+ clients at Three Day Rule. I first met Kara as a possible match for one of her clients and was immediately impressed by her friendly and warm personality.

Kara is very knowledgeable about gay-specific dating concerns. Our first meeting was over Zoom where she spent a considerable amount of time asking questions to first get to know me and then to see if I was the kind of person her client was looking for. Although the date I went on wasn't quite the right match, it was still a very enjoyable time and spot-on in a lot of ways.

After the date, Kara reached out to me via email and asked for feedback. I sent back my thoughts later that day, and after debriefing with her client, Kara also made time to give me feedback, even though I'm not a client.

One of the things I discussed with Kara was a trend I've noticed in my dating life of being seen as "friend material" rather than romantic. Kara provided some of the best advice I've ever received and it instantly changed the way I come across on my dates. I plan to keep practicing the advice she gave me and am considering reaching out to become a client in the near future, either for matchmaking or for date coaching -- she does both.

In the meantime, I've already referred one of my friends to Kara, and I cannot recommend her enough. Her passion and expertise are truly evident, and I'm confident that anyone who’s serious about finding their life partner will find success...