I would not return.

I arrived at Kappy with two girl friend’s from university (5+ years so we are all about 30 ). When we arrived the bartender was extremely difficult to manage. After we speak and I hand her my passport, she says it’s expired. This passport was used last year (it’s very new). She hands the passport back, and I open it. She responds to this behavior by saying, “I know how to read a passport!” Hindsight, she in fact ‘did not know’ how to read a passport. The passport doesn’t expire until 2031. Afterwards, she says, oh you were right.

Firstly, I don’t need to be right…I just want my drink (to go). Then she tells me the identification looks ‘nothing like me’ and starts arguing about this new issue.

Ma’am, black women are allowed to change their hair (braids to short hair). She could not recover from her unwelcoming service and inappropriate demeanor, and rather than apologize and get me out as soon as possible she tried to recover by passing more skepticism and poor behavior.

I tipped her because I’ve worked in hospitality for many years, but I would've rather left her with nothing.

If this were Texas, she wouldn’t last. She has poor communication and obviously struggles with nuance or grace. There are ways of doing your job well, with great service. Also, I visited this location for the first time earlier in the week (with a straight wig) very ‘traditional’ presenting and there were NO issues with my identification. Yesterday when I arrive, I wore my hat and afro and was accompanied with two ‘white’ girl-friends, neither were carded or questioned. I’m not sure how much that'll play a part in her interaction but it is very interesting all the same…