Lovers Lair , Inc. — Local services in Everett

This review is long because my experience wasn’t just about a product—it was about how I was treated in a space I once contributed to. I’m sharing it for others who value context—especially in kink retail spaces that should feel safe, not performative or controlling.

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TL;DR: I used to sell my floggers at Lover’s Lair and taught a class there. I returned to buy a posture collar and a basic one. After realizing one didn’t fit due to a finger injury, I came back to exchange it. Despite their return policy and having just spent money, I was met with judgment and weirdly performative behavior—at one point handed a leash and told to “hold the end.” I still have store credit, but no desire to return.

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Full Review:

I used to shop at Lover’s Lair regularly years ago, even sold my floggers there and taught a class. I’d interacted with Tanya before. When I returned recently, I expected at least a little warmth. Instead, I was met with distance and surveillance.

Tanya gave me a flat, delayed greeting. While I browsed, I felt watched. Not helped—just observed.

Another staff member—Jo (at least that’s what I assume from other reviews)—came out and asked if I needed anything. I asked about posture collars in other colors, and she pointed out a few options, including one she said matched my dress. I picked that one and a basic collar and paid for both.

At checkout, (Jo?) asked if I wanted to sign up for their email list but didn’t hand me a pen—I had to reach across the counter. It was a small moment, but telling.

Once I got to my car, I realized the posture collar didn’t fit—my injured finger had mistaken a lock loop for the closure. I returned immediately and was met with a sneering comment from Tanya:

“You can try things on before you leave.”

I calmly explained, but the tone didn’t improve. (Jo?) agreed to help but immediately shifted into upselling—suggesting a custom collar via private fitting and telling me,

“You’re lucky I’m here—I’m the corset person.”

Eventually, I tried the only remaining collar that fit: the blue one I’d originally passed on. While wearing it, (Jo?) handed me the attached leash and said,

“You can hold the end.” It felt symbolic—like being drawn into a scene I hadn’t consented to.

I said the color wasn’t right, but she kept pushing. I bought it using the exchange credit just to end the interaction. I still have $32 in store credit, but no intention to return.

As I stood at the register, (Jo?) walked by and said:

“We good?” Not in a warm way. In a final-dominance-check kind of way.

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I came in with money, history, and clarity. I left feeling like I’d been tested—not helped.

I wasn’t treated like a customer. I was treated like a participant. And not a...

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