Three Day Rule Matchmaking — Local services in Los Angeles

UPDATE: After seeing the response from TDR, I want to call out that they assigned me to a new matchmaker after I complained about the first one. In fact, the first matchmaker even outright said in an email with their manager copied that they take random photos of pepole for testimonials and use them on her own website. As of today, that matchmaker still appears to be with the company - and my complaint came up back in April 2022.

For them to say that they didn't know I had any concerns/issues at all is an outright lie. In fact after leaving my review I recieved a call before working hours to my cell phone and an email from a staff member begging me to remove this review because "it made [them] look bad." Additionaly they called me unprofessional and tried shifting the blame onto me as if I did something wrong. Overall, had a very negative experience with this agency for a few months due to a variety of reasons but technically speaking they did provide a handful of matches per their written agreement.

If you're looking for anything beyond the bare minimum of pairing you with a match (e.g. dating advice or such) then it's best to look elsewhere.

Unfortunately in my initial call wtih TDR, they completely misrepresented their services claiming that the package included bi-weekly meetings with the matchmaker and general advice, however I was later told that this was not applicable as it wasn't in the client agreement.

Additionally they referred me to a "dating coach" who was extremely unprofessional. Despite me making it clear to TDR that I was looking for a serious relationship, this "coach" went off on a story about how he helped someone with cancer "get laid."

Like I said, I'd give TDR three stars for doing what their legal agreement literally said, but I knocked a star off because of their dishonesty in the sales call.

I absolutely cannot reccomend doing business with this company. At least when a car dealership rips you off, you at least walk away with something...

I enrolled in Three Day Rule (TDR) in April, 2025 with the expectation of receiving a highly personalized, curated matchmaking experience, as advertised. I paid nearly $5,000, based on their assurances that matches would be hand-selected, aligned with my stated preferences, and reflect a high level of vetting. I was told that there were several TDR employees in the DC area scouting markets, events, etc., that would be seeking matches for me.

I was provided five prospects, resulting in three dates:

First date: She made it clear there was no interest in a second date.

Second date: Initially promising, but she ultimately displayed significant immaturity and is now ghosting me entirely.

Third date: Very attractive and intelligent but clearly incompatible in a core area I identified from the outset (sex-positive mindset). After several dates, she turned away from even a simple kiss and admitted, "I don’t know what’s wrong with me," making it clear intimacy was not on the table.

The other two prospects included:

One who was significantly outside my stated age range,

One who was unresponsive from the beginning, slow to communicate, and ultimately stated she was "too busy to date."

These experiences do not reflect the personalized vetting or compatibility screening that TDR heavily markets. Despite multiple emails and escalations—including communication with their "Customer Experience" team—there has been no accountability for these misaligned matches. Their only response was to offer more introductions, while refusing to consider any refund, citing a "non-refundable contract."

While TDR technically delivered three dates, they failed to deliver the high-touch, preference-aligned service they advertise. This service has been a costly disappointment and did not meet reasonable expectations based on their own...

I'm halfway through my contract at TDR. This service is not what I expected. I thought having my own, personal, matchmaker meant having a guide through the whole process of dating. Not so. You have to make an appointment to speak with your matchmaker. This isn't unreasonable, but not what I was expecting. My first matchmaker did make more of an effort to take our conversations offline, but I never talk to my second one. She sends a match, I email follow up and we never talk.

The pros of the service are the vetting and the attempts to choose people you wouldn't choose for yourself. You're still meeting a bunch of strangers and the info provided is sometimes incorrect. On two occasions I was given a detail to follow up on when meeting the person, and in both cases the details were wrong and there was no there there to talk about. But the vetting does seem to weed out the worst of the worst. Having someone do all that work is valuable, and I do think worth paying for if you have the money.

This feels a lot like online dating and not like a personalized service that I thought I'd be getting for the price tag. I thought we would chat about the match when I was given one, and chat about the date afterwards. None of that is happening, and it's making this experience almost as much of a chore as online dating. I get that a lot of work is getting done behind the scenes, but no work is getting done in front of them. Maybe I'm confusing it with what a date coach does.

UPDATE Well I finished out my contract and never heard from anyone again. After my last contractual match, neither my matchmaker nor any company representative reached out to me. I didn't reach out because I wanted to see if anyone would bother. They didn't. Not even a perfunctory or boiler...