On Saturday, September 13th, I came to Christ Our King seeking reconciliation and healing. I approached Father Spencer for confession, but instead of grace, I was met with judgment. He refused to hear my confession and told me I was living in a permanent state of adultery—because I had married someone who was previously married outside the Church and had not received an annulment. I left feeling humiliated and spiritually shaken.
What made this even more painful is that two years ago, I had confessed the exact same situation to a different priest at this parish. He listened with compassion, offered forgiveness, and gave me penance. He didn’t question my attendance at an Anglican church or my marriage. He simply extended grace.
My former priest in Virginia, whom I trust deeply, confirmed that my circumstances—attending an Anglican church and being married to someone who had previously divorced outside the Catholic Church—should not have prevented me from receiving the sacrament of reconciliation.
It’s confusing and disheartening that two priests at the same church could respond so differently to the same confession. Why is there such inconsistency in how spiritual care is offered? For someone trying to return to the faith, this contradiction is not just unsettling—it’s damaging.
I had been struggling with whether or not to return to the Catholic Church. This experience is exactly why I’ve chosen to attend the Anglican church my husband belongs to. It’s warm, loving, and rooted in the teachings of Jesus Christ. There are still clear expectations for how to live faithfully—but they are delivered with forgiveness and compassion.
I respect the Church’s traditions, and I understand they guide how the sacraments are administered. But even within those boundaries, no one deserves to be attacked when seeking mercy. I was on my knees, asking for forgiveness, and was turned away. It was heartbreaking.
I have no desire to be part of a church that responds with anger to people who are vulnerable and seeking help. We’re not asking for perfection—we’re...
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